‘How are you finding motherhood?’ People would ask shortly after the arrival of my first baby.
‘So great,’ I lied, fighting back the tears. ‘Best thing ever.’
The truth is, I felt like crap.
But I had seen the smiling new mums on Facebook and Instagram holding tiny babies in their arms. I had read the glossy parenting magazines. I knew how I should be feeling. I should be glowing with happiness at the arrival of a beautiful, healthy child. So why wasn’t I?
It was the night before Christmas and all through the house,
No one was sleeping..because, IT’S CHRISTMAS EVE AND THEY NEVER BLOODY DO.
On the night before Christmas, so it is said,
Children should nestle, snug in their beds.
On the night before Christmas, so I have heard
No one should be stirring or saying a word…
On the night before Christmas, so they say,
Mummy gets a winter’s nap at the end of the day.
Well, I call CRAP. There is no nap.
Just tidying up and presents to wrap.
Then children telling countless lies
About why they can’t close their eyes,
“Mummy, mummy I can’t go to bed.
There’s sugarplums dancing in my head.”
On the night before Christmas, finally I’m in bed
With the Mr Tumble song stuck in my head.
When all I once I heard such a clatter,
I ran into the hall to see what was the matter.
“MUMMY, HAS SANTA BEEN YET?
Is it too late to ask him to bring a pet?
Does he do dogs? Or perhaps a cat?
Can you ring him now and ask him that?”
On the night before Christmas, kids back in bed
Once again, I lay down my heavy head.
When all at once I heard an almighty crash
So out of my bedroom I flew like a flash.
“FOR F**KS SAKE,” I whisper. “WHAT IS WRONG?”
“Mummy, will Santa be very long?
Because I really need a poo,
Will Santa come while I’m on the loo?”
On the night before Christmas, I need some sleep!
Back into my bed I wearily creep,
Then just as my eyes begin to close
Out on the lawn a noise arose.
“What now”’ I cry and to the window I dash,
I open the curtain and throw up the sash.
When what to my wondering eyes did appear?
Actual Father Christmas and his reindeer!
On the night before Christmas, I saw St Nick!
Or is sleep-deprivation playing a trick?
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
He whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!
“Excuse me,” I yelled at the man in red.
“But I’ve just got my children back into bed,
I know you have to deliver all those toys
But do have to make so much bloody noise?”
On the night before Christmas, I watched in glee
As Santa put presents under the tree
“Excuse me,” I call over to the jolly old elf,
“Could I please get a photo of you and myself?”
A quick selfie later Santa nodded his head.
And I knew it was time to go back to bed.
Up the chimney he rose, than sprang to his sleigh
Where his reindeers were ready to fly him away.
Then I heard him whisper as he flew out of sight
“Happy Christmas to you, may you get sleep tonight!”
THE BOOK
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MY heart is beating fast and I feel sick. I force myself to eat some chocolate because someone said it might help. I take a deep breath and open the door…
The hall is silent except for the occasional cough and the shuffling of chairs. The stench of nervous sweat lingers in the air.
“Turn over your papers, you may begin.”
I look at the clock and I am filled with panic. I feel like I might pass out. I pick up my pen but my palms are so sweaty it is hard to grip it properly. I want to cry. I want to scream, and I really need the toilet.
This was how I felt before every GCSE exam I took. I was 16. This was also how I felt before taking my driving test, aged 22, and my journalism training (NCTJ) exams when I was 24.
Being tested makes us feel anxious. Even the most academic of adults find being in an exam situation stressful, so it’s not hard to imagine how a young child about to sit their Year 2 SATs must feel….
Read more about my thoughts on the impact of testing young children over at The New Statesman!
I also wrote about all the weird and wonderful words for Vagina at Metro UK.…YES. Discussing SATs and vaginas in the same week. I LOVE my job.
I was the mother of two children under two who did not sleep. I was tired, stressed and felt like I hadn’t sat down in years. Of course I needed a holiday. But when you are so sleep-deprived that even a trip to the Big Tesco is a major operation, the mere thought of a holiday can be terrifying.
“The sea air will help the baby sleep,” they said.
“All the excitement will tire the kids out,”’ people assured me.
But I had seen the smiling new mums on Facebook and Instagram holding tiny babies in their arms. I had read the glossy parenting magazines. I knew how I should be feeling. I should be glowing with happiness at the arrival of a beautiful, healthy child. So why wasn’t I? Continue reading →
I am not proud of myself, but sometimes lying (and coffee, so much coffee) is the only way to survive The truth would simply hurt too much (or make you look like a miserable twat) so telling the odd fib is a necessary evil.
If you are a tired parent, then here are a few untruths that you might recognise (or maybe I am just a miserable twat): Continue reading →
ARE you looking for a way to get your baby to go to sleep and stay asleep when they do not want to be asleep?
You probably won’t find one.
At worst, they will stay awake all night. At best, you may be able to get them to stay in bed long enough for you to enjoy (neck) a glass of wine. Continue reading →